Tuesday Tea-Time Thoughts : The Bane of “Have a Good One”

Cherished readers, The Lady is back to her normal schedule once more and enjoyed tea with her friends in the garden while the warmer weather is still here. And now New England is keeping an eye on Hurricane Jose. The seasons are changing.

As usual there was a lively topic as the ladies sipped tea. The Lady caused a little stir (and is sure that more people are going to disagree with her on this subject) when she complained of one her biggest pet peeves and that is being told to HAVE A GOOD ONE. Everywhere you go from the bank to Burger King to the grocery store to the doctor’s office, when you thank the person taking your money more often than not they tell you to “Have a good one!”

Have a good what????

Drink of water? Vacation? Marathon? Oh….you mean DAY!!!! At first The Lady thought this might be a regional thing peculiar to New England and then she discovered on her travels that this seemed to be prevalent everywhere.

Some might ask: What’s the big deal? The Lady refuses to say Have a good one because it sounds vulgar…this ‘good one’ can be any number of unsavory things. To be clear…she is as much against ordering someone to have a good day. She much prefers the kindly and mannerly Hungarian custom that Lord Hooper-Brackett explained to her of wishing someone a good day: “I wish you a good day”. That sounds much more civilized.

The Lady knows that manners change, but she still can’t help longing for the days before “Have a good one” became the norm.

Wishing You All A Good Day,

The Lady Hooper-Brackett

 

 

 

 

Tuesday Tea Time Thoughts: The Surprise Party

Cherished readers, today in the semi-drear of the New England weather (it was 72 degrees and overcast…unusually cool for August!) The Lady and her friends gathered for their weekly tea. The topic today was how mannerly it is to plan a surprise party for someone that has stated they do not want one.

The Lady’s short answer: It isn’t. At all.

If the person of honor has made it very clear that they do no wish to be surprised. So you do not surprise them. EVER. Not for the fun of it or to make everyone happy or because it would be a great thing to see their shocked face. The celebration is not for you. And you will risk seriously making your loved-one upset if you go ahead and plan such a function against their wishes.

The only time that a surprise party is warranted is when you know with absolute certainty that they enjoy surprises or have expressed the desire to one day have a surprise party. The Lady would like to state for the record that in no circumstance would she want a surprise party and would probably lose all sense of decorum if she walked into one thrown in her honor.

Take into consideration these points:

The surprisee may not be properly dressed for a party

The surprisee may not have had their makeup, nails, or hair done and these things may be of the utmost importance to them (The Lady attended a surprise party of a friend who entered her home after digging in her flower beds and covered in dirt…her husband was banished to the couch for a month after this incident)

The surprisee might be feeling unwell

The surprisee might just want to avoid people because they are a curmudgeon

Best Surprise Wishes,

The Lady Hooper-Brackett

 

Tuesday Tea-Time Thoughts: Basic Manners for Children

Cherished readers, it is Tuesday once again and since we had some very nice weather here, The Lady and her friends were able to take tea in a lovely breezy and shady spot. Today the topic of conversation around our hyacinth-laden table was Children’s Manners. While some of The Lady’s friends felt that children (and people in general) have gotten much ruder lately, the general consensus is that the wee little ones take well to manners and etiquette if you teach them early. The Lady has compiled a list of basic manners that she feels all children over the age of five can practice:

-to say hello pleasantly to people they meet and to look people in the eye when speaking

-to speak when spoken to

-to get along with their siblings, cousins, and other children

-to show respect for older people

-to say “Thank you”, “Please,” “I’m sorry”, “Excuse me”

-to not interrupt others while they are speaking

-to remember the basic etiquette rule of never calling attention to oneself and to not raise merry hell, scream, or otherwise cavort in public.

-to shake hands

-to respect the property of others and not touch or play with other people’s things unless invited to do so

-to respect the privacy of others

These are the basic building blocks of etiquette that every  child needs. More instruction in this fine art and we can change the world!

Best Etiquette Wishes,

The Lady Hooper-Brackett

 

Tuesday Tea-Time Thoughts: Dinner Vs. Supper

Cherished readers, The Lady’s circle of friends is known for chatting about a variety of subjects. Today as they gathered for tea indoors in the conservatory (a pox on all the rain!) a lively discussion ensued on using the words Dinner and Supper. They asked me my thoughts on the matter (bless them!)

The Lady believes that the heaviest meal of the day is properly called Dinner, whether this large meal takes place at the noon hour or in the evening. There are locales whose inhabitants use these words interchangeably to describe the evening meal. The word dinner on its own does not indicate the time of day of the meal, only that it is the largest meal of the day. In truth, The Lady has not heard the word Supper being used very often lately.

Does The Lady feel that you will be judged harshly for mixing the two words? No.

To add some flair to her own speech (and to pay homage to her wonderful French teacher) The Lady likes to refer to her meals using the French phrases: petit dejeuner for breakfast, dejeuner for lunch and diner for dinner. Or she merely uses the generic repas to describe a meal.

When in doubt, give things a little French flair and you will always sound correct!

Jusqu’à la prochaine fois,

The Lady Hooper-Brackett

Tuesday Tea-Time Thoughts: The Extinction of the Home Economics Class

Cherished readers, The Lady and her friends were reminiscing about their high school days today as they took tea in the garden. Ahh, nothing like the memories of youth. (Though The Lady acknowledges that she would not want to go back and re-do high school.) The group was unanimous that one of their favorite classes was Home Economics. One of the ladies in the group is a teacher and it seems that, according to her, Home-Ec is no longer taught. She said that it is not just in her district, but everywhere. She says that the material is no longer relevant.

This seems to be a travesty.  The Lady remembers her co-ed Home-Ec class as being fun and informative. It taught valuable life skills and gave students, at the very least, a minimum knowledge about cooking, home care, family responsibilities etc…And lest you think that The Lady is severely ancient, she graduated from high school when George H. W. Bush was president and Barbara Bush wore her lovely strand of pearls.

The Lady knows that times change, but she cannot help but feel saddened that current students will not know the fun of cooking something new, learning cooking techniques, and learning to sew a simple skirt or pillow. These skills boost one’s confidence that one can care for themselves and others. It seems that modern education forgets this.

Best Home-Ec Wishes,

The Lady Hooper-Brackett