I had an interesting discussion with a friend on the subject of personal questions. She was amazed that her daughter-in-law actually answered when someone asked her age. I could sympathize with her surprise, but I also acknowledge that the younger generations are generally much more open about things than we ancients are. (I’m not really ancient…but I like to pretend to be of a different era.)
Even with these more open, free social customs, The Lady believes that the following examples fall into the category of personal questions:
-How much money do you make/have/plan to inherit?
-How much did this cost? How can you afford this?
-When are you going to have children/stop having more children/discipline the children you have?
-What exactly is wrong with your health?
-Why are you getting divorced?
-How much do you weigh? (Ha…you knew that one was going to make the list!)
-Did you have some work done? (Referring to plastic surgery, not work on the house or car)
-Is it real? (Whatever it is…a gemstone, bosom, derriere, hair, etc…)
In all things, discretion is your friend. No probing questions.
Best Manners Wishes,
The Lady Hooper-Brackett
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