I received this interesting question and was at first at a loss if an answer was appropriate as it doesn’t strictly pertain to manners and etiquette. Then, after thinking about it, I do believe it is a good question for us all to ponder.
Dear Lady Hooper-Brackett,
Do you think clothes have anything to do with manners? I mean, the items we choose to wear every day have nothing to do with how we treat people. Am I wrong to think this way?
Dear Casual Dresser,
Your question is a good one…and seemingly very relevant in our less formal ways of current living. Clothing does communicate to others, and this communication should be mannerly and in good taste. Yes, I do believe that clothing is part of manners and gracious living. You wouldn’t (hopefully) show up at a formal dinner wearing a Speedo. You wouldn’t wear a tuxedo to a pool party. These examples show that these choices would call attention to yourself and make others uncomfortable. As much as we hate to admit, people judge others upon first meeting. Your appearance will color what others think of you, more than the fact that you open doors for ladies or have impeccable table manners. Especially if you seek to dress differently for shock value, choosing the wrong clothing can be rude. Appropriateness in all situations will make you and everyone else around you comfortable.
Best Clothes Wishes,
The Lady Hooper-Brackett