I Received an Invitation to a Wedding That I Don’t Wish to Attend; Do I Have to Send A Gift?

Cherished readers, I feel and fear that it is inevitable that we shall all be invited to celebrate the nuptial bliss of one or more couples for whom we frankly  feel no enthusiasm.  The conundrum is do we send a gift?

The Lady Hooper-Brackett would like to share that while the simple answer is that an invitation to a wedding ceremony does not obligate to you to send any gift, should you be invited to a wedding reception, then you are expected to send a gift whether you attend or not.  I know, I hear you protesting over the vast interwebs….however…the fact that you made the shortlist tells me that you have a good relationship with the sender or that you are close relations. It is sometimes better to just suck it up and attend, make the best of things, and be social. The Lady advises you thusly:

You should attend a wedding, reception, and/or send a gift if:

-the bride, groom, or their respective parents attended yours

-you are the child, cousin, sibling, aunt, uncle, grandparent, or parent of the bride or groom

-you work with the bride or groom and must see them on a daily basis

-your mother tells you must attend. Listen to her…she knows.

Incidentally, a wedding announcement does not bestow obligations on the receiver of such, though much the same as with an invitation to a ceremony, you may send a gift if you feel you have a relationship with the sender that warrants the sending of a gift.

Best celebratory wishes,

The Lady Hooper-Brackett

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